Vaguebooking

Salama Davids-Bhana
Mar 2, 2015
2 min read

If this made you want to punch someone in the throat, then congrats, you're on my team!

This behaviour is one of my many social media pet peeves. I am sure we are all guilty of it at one point or another, but the time has come for it to stop.

Look, I get that being direct is not the easiest thing and that people don't like being confronted, BUT... it's all part of growing up.

If you don't like what someone has said/done to you, just say, "Hey, Fuckface. You make me sick when you______. Stop your shit. Cool? Awesome."

And then you can both just live your lives. Why make it so complicated?

If that's too harsh, then you can try this, "Hey friend. It really hurts my feelings/disappoints me/makes me cry rivers when you _____" and then give the other person the opportunity to a) defend themselves b) give you insight to their perspective c) punch you in the face.

If you don't like my approach, click here for some helpful tips for confronting someone who hurt you.

Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people - Spencer Johnson

That Spencer Johnson guy makes sense. If you value your friendships enough, tell them. Speak up for yourself. Don't expect your friends to read your mind. It's not too late. You CAN stop this behaviour.

I had a friend once tell me that she builds up a wall to see who will actually break it down and to see who will actually miss her and that somehow stuck with me.

I just think that too many people are spending too much time building walls and less time opening the lines of communication. We live in a world where it is so easy to connect and reconnect with people. Stop fighting. If you miss someone, tell them. If you want to spend time with someone, make plans with them. Don't wait for the other person. The only person you are in control of is YOU. So do what makes YOU happy... unless that is vaguebooking, then STOP. Please just stop!!